Want a New Role? How to Talk to Your Boss Without Making It Weird

If you're starting to feel the itch for a new challenge or a shift in your role, you're far from alone. According to a 2023 LinkedIn Workplace Learning Report, 93% of employees say they would stay longer at a company that invests in their careers. Translation: wanting to grow isn't disloyal—it's expected.

Still, even when you know you're ready for something new, the idea of bringing it up can feel awkward. So let’s break down how to navigate the conversation with your boss like a pro—without making it weird.

Step 1: Know What You Want (and Why)

Before you even think about hitting send on that meeting request, get clear on your goals. Ask yourself:

●      What type of work lights me up?

●      What am I good at that I want to do more of?

●      What part of my current role isn’t working for me anymore?

Whether it’s a full-on promotion or a lateral move to a team that better matches your strengths, understanding your why helps you advocate with clarity and confidence.

Step 2: Do Your Homework

●      Research the structure of your company. Are there roles open that interest you? Skills you still need to build? People in that role you could talk to? What are the company norms for lateral moves or promotions—like how long someone typically stays in a role, or whether stretch assignments are expected first? Being aware of these unwritten rules and internal politics can help you navigate the process more strategically.

Bringing ideas—not just problems—to your boss shows initiative. Try this framing:

"I've been exploring where I can grow within the company, and I noticed that [X role/team] aligns with my strengths and where I want to develop."

Step 3: Time It Right (and Don’t Ghost Your Current Role)

Good timing is everything. Avoid popping this question during a crisis or right after a missed deadline. Instead, request a one-on-one conversation at a time when you and your manager both have space to think.

Also: Make it clear you’re still committed to the team.

"I really value the opportunities I've had here, and I want to keep contributing in a meaningful way—which is why I'm bringing this up."

Step 4: Keep It a Two-Way Conversation

Your boss might need time to process what you’ve discussed. They might not have a clear answer right away. That’s okay. Invite collaboration:

"I'd love to get your thoughts on what a path forward could look like. Are there internal opportunities or steps you'd suggest?"

And if there are concerns?

"I understand this might shift some priorities—how could we work together to make it a smooth transition if the opportunity opens up?"

Step 5: Recap and Keep It Moving

After your conversation, follow up with a quick thank-you email summarizing the conversation and any next steps. This keeps things professional and clear.

"Thanks again for your time today—I really appreciated the chance to talk about my goals and how I can keep growing here. Looking forward to whatever comes next."

Final Thoughts: Change Isn’t a Red Flag—It’s a Signal of Growth

Wanting something different doesn’t make you flaky or ungrateful. It makes you someone who is actively engaged in your own development. And that’s the kind of person most companies want to keep around.

Sources:

●      LinkedIn Workplace Learning Report, 2023

●      Gallup: How Millennials Want to Work and Live

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